Relationship Therapy for Women
You've Tried Everything. So Why Isn't Your Relationship Getting Better?
You've read the books. Tried the communication skills. Given them space. Maybe you've even gone to couples therapy.
But you're still having the same fights, feeling alone in your relationship, and wondering what else you are supposed to do to make things change.
Virtual relationship therapy throughout Texas · Relationship coaching available nationwide
COMMUNICATION ISN’T ALWAYS THE PROBLEM
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UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIOR DOESN’T MEAN EXCUSING IT
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YOU CAN’T DO BOTH PEOPLE’S WORK
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COMMUNICATION ISN’T ALWAYS THE PROBLEM ✦ UNDERSTANDING BEHAVIOR DOESN’T MEAN EXCUSING IT ✦ YOU CAN’T DO BOTH PEOPLE’S WORK ✦
You’ve Done the Work. But You’re Still Doing the Relationship for Two.
You’ve learned how to communicate better. You’ve worked on your anxious attachment. You’ve tried giving them more space, choosing your words carefully, staying calm when they get defensive, and bringing things up at exactly the “right” time.
And somehow, you’re still the one initiating the conversations, trying to repair after fights, figuring out what went wrong, and searching for the next thing that might finally make your relationship better.
At some point, we have to stop asking “How can I do this better?” and start asking a different question:
What is actually happening in this relationship?
Because sometimes there are things you can change that will completely shift the dynamic.
And sometimes the problem isn’t that you haven’t found the right way to communicate. It’s that you’re trying to create change that requires another person’s participation.
My job is to help you know the difference.
Together we can work through….
You’re in an anxious-avoidant relationship
You keep pursuing connection, answers, or resolution while your partner shuts down, pulls away, or needs more and more space.Your partner gets defensive whenever you bring up a problem
Conversations somehow become about your tone, your timing, or what you did wrong and the original issue never actually gets resolved.You feel like you’re carrying the relationship
You initiate the hard conversations, suggest therapy, read the books, make the plans, repair after conflict, and keep trying to figure out how to make things better.Couples therapy or relationship advice hasn’t worked
You’ve tried communicating differently, using “I” statements, giving more space, setting boundaries, and working on yourself. You’re doing everything you were told to do, but the relationship still isn’t changing.You don’t know whether you need to work on yourself or expect more from your partner
You’re willing to take accountability for your part. You just need someone who can help you figure out what actually belongs to you and what doesn’t.
Hey, I’m Cate,
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate who specializes in helping women navigate relationships that have become exhausting, confusing, or painfully one-sided.
I work with women who have usually already done a lot of work. You’ve read the books. You know your attachment style. You can probably explain exactly why your partner shuts down or gets defensive. What you can’t figure out is why knowing all of this hasn’t actually made your relationship better.
That’s where our work gets different.
I’m not interested in teaching you to communicate perfectly enough that another person finally responds differently. We’re going to look at the relationship as a whole: your patterns, their patterns, what happens between you, and what is actually creating change versus keeping you stuck.
I’ll help you take accountability for the part that’s yours. And I’ll be just as willing to tell you when something isn’t yours to fix.
My approach is grounded in marriage and family therapy, attachment theory, and evidence-based relationship work, with one goal: helping you stop second-guessing yourself and start making decisions from a clear understanding of the relationship you’re actually in.
Ways to work with me:
Choose the kind of support that fits what you need right now.
Private Sessions
One-on-one sessions for personalized support navigating your relationship and creating meaningful change.
Couples Sessions
Work together to understand the patterns keeping you stuck and create meaningful change in your relationship.
Relationship Clarity Club
Weekly live coaching + a community of women who get it, so you can apply what I teach and actually follow through.
Frequently asked questions
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Absolutely. A lot of my clients come to therapy individually because they're struggling in their relationship even when their partner isn't interested in therapy. We can look at the relationship patterns you're stuck in, what happens during conflict, what you have the power to change, and what requires your partner's participation.
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Yes. I work with women caught in anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics, including pursuing and withdrawing, defensiveness, shutting down, difficulty repairing after conflict, and feeling responsible for keeping the relationship connected.
But I don't assume every relationship problem is caused by attachment. Sometimes anxiety is driving you to pursue harder. Sometimes you're pursuing because important issues genuinely aren't getting addressed. Part of our work is figuring out the difference.
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You're not alone. Communication tools, time-outs, “I” statements, and giving each other space can be incredibly helpful but they don't solve every relationship problem.
We'll look at why those strategies aren't creating change in your relationship and what is actually keeping the two of you stuck.
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No. My job isn't to decide whether you should stay or leave. It's also not to convince you that everything will be okay if you just communicate better.
My job is to help you understand the relationship you're actually in, take responsibility for what's yours, recognize what isn't, and make decisions you trust.
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Yes. My practice is fully virtual. I provide online therapy to clients throughout Texas, including Austin, San Antonio, Houston, Dallas–Fort Worth, and surrounding communities. I also offer coaching for clients outside Texas.
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Individual 50-minute sessions are $250 and couples sessions are $300. My practice is self-pay. For therapy clients, I can provide a superbill that you may submit to your insurance company for possible out-of-network reimbursement.