Hey I’m Cate!
I’m a relationship therapist for women who have worked really hard on themselves and still can’t figure out why their relationship isn’t getting better.
You’ve worked on your anxious attachment. Given your avoidant or defensive partner space. Tried communicating differently. Set boundaries. Taken accountability. And somehow, you’re still stuck.
I help you understand the anxious-avoidant patterns keeping you stuck, break codependent and overfunctioning cycles, and figure out what to do when the usual relationship advice isn’t working.
You Don't Need Another Therapist Telling You to Communicate Better.
You’ve probably already tried.
You’ve learned to use “I” statements. You’ve worked on your triggers. You’ve tried giving more space, choosing your words carefully, regulating before you respond, and understanding your partner’s attachment style.
And some of that may genuinely be yours to work on.
But I’m not going to assume that every problem in your relationship can be solved by you becoming better at relationships.
Sometimes anxiety is making you chase a conversation that would be better revisited tomorrow. Sometimes you’re chasing because tomorrow comes and your partner never revisits it.
Sometimes you need to communicate differently. Sometimes you’re communicating with someone who becomes defensive no matter how gently you bring up a problem.
Sometimes you need to work on your expectations. And sometimes what you’re expecting is basic accountability, consistency, or emotional safety.
Our job is to figure out the difference.
Because once we understand what is actually happening in your relationship, we can stop throwing more effort at the wrong problem and get clear about what you can actually do next.
About Cate
I know relationships are complicated. Therapy should help you make sense of yours.
I’m Caitlyn Klein, MA, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate with a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Abilene Christian University.
I specialize in working with women who feel stuck in difficult relationship dynamics especially anxious-avoidant patterns, defensiveness, repeated unresolved conflict, and relationships where one person has slowly become responsible for keeping everything together.
My approach is both compassionate and direct. I want to understand why you and your partner do what you do, but understanding a behavior doesn’t mean we have to excuse it. We’ll look honestly at your patterns, your partner’s patterns, and the cycle between you so we can get clear about what’s yours to change, what isn’t, and what actually needs to happen for the relationship to get better.
I’m not interested in spending months helping you become better at tolerating something that isn’t working. I’m also not going to sit across from you and tell you that everything is your partner’s fault. Good therapy should help you see your relationship more clearly, trust yourself more deeply, and know what to do with what you see.
And yes, therapy with me is still therapy but you can expect me to be a real person in the room. We’ll talk about the hard stuff, I’ll tell you what I’m seeing, and there will probably be some laughing along the way.
When I’m not talking about relationships, I’m probably wandering through an open house of a historic home, sampling absolutely everything at the farmers market, binge-watching a documentary about a cult I somehow hadn’t heard of yet, or playing in the backyard with my girls.
Why Therapy With Cate?
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I’m not a sit-back-and-nod therapist. I’ll help you see the patterns you may be too close to recognize and be direct about what I think is keeping you stuck.
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We can have compassion for why you or your partner behave a certain way without pretending the behavior is healthy, acceptable, or sustainable.
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Instead of asking you to keep trying harder, we’ll figure out what’s yours to work on, what isn’t, and where change requires your partner’s participation.