Attachment-Focused Relationship Therapy for Women
Work on your relationship even if your partner isn't doing the work with you.
Individual therapy helps you understand the patterns keeping you stuck and learn what you can do differently to change the dynamic without chasing, overfunctioning, or abandoning yourself in the process.
You know you can’t change your partner. But what are you supposed to do when their behavior is still affecting you?
You’re the one wondering whether to bring it up again when they’re acting like nothing happened.
You remind them because if you don’t, it probably won’t get done. You carefully choose your words because you know the conversation can quickly become about how you said it instead of what you were trying to talk about.
And you're constantly trying to figure out:
Do I let this go? Say something? Set a boundary? Give them space? Am I being controlling? Is this my anxious attachment or is this actually not okay?
Individual therapy isn't about teaching you to tolerate more.
It's about figuring out what you can actually do when you can't control what your partner does.
What Changes in Individual Therapy?
You may not be able to make your partner communicate, change, or show up differently. But you can change what you do when they get defensive, cross a boundary, leave you carrying their part, or make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.
Get through to a defensive partner
You’ve probably explained yourself a hundred different ways calmer, clearer, softer, shorter hoping that if you can just say it the right way, your partner will finally understand.
I’ll teach you how to communicate with a defensive partner without overexplaining, chasing agreement, or getting pulled into another circular argument.
Set boundaries they can’t cross
Most of the women I work with think they’re setting boundaries when they’re actually making requests and then wondering what to do when their partner ignores them
I’ll teach you how to set actual boundaries that don’t depend on your partner’s cooperation, so they can’t simply decide whether or not to respect them.
Break codependent relationship patterns
Codependency doesn’t always look like being “needy.” It can be reminding, managing, fixing, rescuing, anticipating problems, or doing things for your partner because you know they won't do them themselves.
I’ll help you recognize where you’re overfunctioning and learn how to let your partner be responsible for their part.
Stop walking on eggshells
You know what you want or need until you start worrying about how your partner will react. So you soften it, don't bring it up, change your mind, fix their feelings, or do whatever you can to keep the peace.
I’ll help you stop managing your partner’s moods and reactions so their feelings don’t determine what you’re allowed to say, need, or do.
You might be wondering…
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Yes. You can't make your partner change, but you can change how you participate in the relationship. We'll work on the places where you have influence how you communicate, respond to defensiveness, hold boundaries, stop overfunctioning, and make decisions while getting clear about what actually requires change from your partner.
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Then we'll work on it. The goal isn't to prove that your partner is the problem or reassure you that you've done nothing wrong. We'll look honestly at your anxious attachment, reactions, communication, and relationship patterns without automatically making you responsible for everything that isn't working.
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This is a big part of my work. We'll look at what happens when you try to address a problem, what you typically do when your partner withdraws or becomes defensive, and how to respond differently without chasing, overexplaining, or letting the original issue disappear.
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Yes. Codependency can look like managing your partner's moods, overfunctioning, rescuing, reminding, fixing, avoiding conflict, or struggling to hold a boundary when someone is upset with you. We'll work on helping you stay connected to yourself without disconnecting from the people you love.
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No. Therapy with me isn't about convincing you to stay or telling you to leave. We'll focus on helping you understand what's happening, know what you can control, get clear about what you need, and make choices you trust.
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Good. That's not the goal. Healthy attachment isn't about needing your partner less or becoming unaffected by what they do. The goal is being able to stay connected to someone else without abandoning yourself in the process.
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Yes. I provide virtual individual therapy to clients throughout Texas and relationship coaching worldwide Sessions are 50 minutes and $250.
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That’s incredibly common. You may already know you have anxious attachment, understand why you overfunction, and recognize exactly when you’re chasing or people-pleasing.
Knowing why you do it and being able to do something different in the moment are two different things.
Our work focuses on what happens next: how to communicate differently, hold the boundary when it gets uncomfortable, stop taking over when your partner doesn’t follow through, and tolerate the anxiety that comes with changing a relationship pattern you’ve been participating in for years.
Hi! I’m Cate
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapy Associate, and I specialize in helping women navigate anxious attachment, codependent relationship patterns, and relationships with defensive or avoidant partners.
My style is warm, direct, and practical. I’m not here to tell you everything is your fault or that everything is your partner’s fault.
We’re going to figure out what’s yours, what isn’t, and what you can actually do about it.